Relationships: 7 Things to Expect While Waiting For Husbae

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The one

On days you grow weary come back and read this 😩

Sure this topic has probably been covered but the challenges we face in 2018 are completely different to say 1916 where relationships weren’t as complicated. Beware: this post is real

1. There will be lonely nights

Nights you wish you had company. God did not make man to be alone, and so men and women experience loneliness to a certain degree, especially living in a big city.

It’s this feeling that causes us to seek comfort in spontaneous ways, without really thinking of the consequences, like casual sex, porn and eating, but those highs are short lived.

The only way to soothe the emptiness is to get closer to God my love, throw yourself into your purpose and get a hobby or two, something that you can become passionate about, that way you can fill the void for longer periods plus you will grow as a person.

2. Men are going to come at you for sex

But you already know this, some men feel entitled to sex after one date! 🤷🏾‍♂️ Don’t be shocked when the man you least expect comes at you sideways, nowadays anything goes.

Now that sex is everywhere, it seems as if it’s no big deal

Make no mistake ladies, sex is important to men. They will do anything for it, of course some will front and say otherwise. That’s just what men do and they do it to get that coochie. In reality your body is the most valuable part you can give a man aside from sacrificing your actual life.


3. You will date out of boredom 😒

If you’re not intentionally busy in your single season, you will easily get bored. Accepting dates for the free food, dating randoms and chasing men for attention rather than letting men pursue you because you are the prize sis.

See women aren’t built like men, it’s hard for women to talk and message someone everyday and not catch feelings. That’s what’s so dangerous because oftentimes these guys aren’t emotionally or spiritually attractive and you wouldn’t choose them to be your husband but you end up making lifetime commitments, by having their kids, all because of boredom. Honey it’s not worth it.

4. You will meet a few Ishmaels who front like Isaac

The type of guy that ticks all of your boxes, except he will lead you astray away from your purpose and tempt you to do things against God’s will. He is the smooth talker that everyone believes is legit, perhaps he’s funny, has money in the bank, a couple of degrees or is poppin on Instagram yet behind the facade he lacks character.

His charisma makes him hard to let go, girl we’ve all been there!!!

It is important to have discernment and pray about the person you are interested in as God might reveal something that will save you from heartbreak.


5. Your friends will get married before you 😬

Be happy for them. This isn’t a competition sweetie. You are just as beautiful and worthy. No matter how hard it is for you in that moment compliment your friend that just got married. Your soul will feel so much better. The principle of sowing and reaping is real, celebrate those who go before you. Your turn is coming.

6. You are going to need moral support

There are some marathons that are hard to complete alone. That’s where your sistas come in, there are women who are newlyweds, women who have come through abuse, and women who are just getting divorced and their voices matter, why? Because we can all take away a little bit from their experience. That type of encouragement is priceless as it will get you through those days when you feel like settling.

Surround yourself with people that inspire you

It has never been harder to believe in love, getting your blessing has a lot to do with the company you keep and your level of faith.

7. Chase God and your love life will fall into place

This is the hardest part. He promised your heart’s desire that’s a 10, yet you keep taking the wheel and steering it in your own direction towards a 5. LET GOD BE GOD. Don’t let time make you doubt what God promised you all along. He’s saving you for His best.

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  1. Great post

  2. Love your work

  3. I’m sorry, but this advice is the reason the church is filled with single women into their 40’s. How about – be the person you want to find. If you’re not attracting the man you want, look inside & fix yourself. Learn a new skill, take a new hobby, become more interesting, volunteer for causes you care about, etc.

  4. blackcitygirlofficial says:

    Thanks for reading guys and your feedback !

  5. This is exactly what I needed, thank you! So important to keep trusting God no matter what life throws at us and in his perfect timing things will happen.

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  7. Wowww.. thanks for this

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