Relationships: 20-40 Why Are You Wasting Your Prime Years?

You know the dating game is on life support when African-Americans think swirling is the answer, and Africans think Europe is the answer, and Europe thinks America is the answer.

We think the answer is in our approach

Marriage cynics look away now

A simple question you need to ask is:

‘If you want to get married why are you giving him your prime years with nothing to show for it?’


Make sure you’re not spending this time in dead-end relationships

Your clock is ticking. As a woman your 20’s – 40’s are your prime. The window of time maybe shorter. This counts for nothing if you’re not single and positioned to be found by your husband, because you are emotionally attached to someone who is kinda, sorta committed to you.

Do you know how painful it is trying to build a life with the wrong rib?

We repeatedly hear stories from women serial dating men for 5 or 6 years in their 20’s and 30’s without any sign of commitment. It’s mind blowing.

You may hope that eventually he sees your value, but he is more likely to string you along for another 2 or 3 years, only to decide that he wants to marry someone else in a few weeks – or worse yet, someone younger.

Combine this with a lower chance of finding someone with no baggage once we get past a certain age, and all of a sudden it seems crazy to waste time talking beyond 3 dates or 1 month MAX without absolute confidence he is sure about you.6475_1044_1044_newback2a

You are like this luxury house in your 20’s – 30’s

There’s no way you would rent this stunning open plan home with a pool out for years. During this period, you would only be interested in calls from buyers wanting to take it off the market. Right?

Therefore you would leave it vacant and ready to sell until a buyer came along with the asking price.

You would also position the property to take advantage of it’s high value

Put value on yourself

If your current relationship isn’t growing towards something permanent then you need to start asking questions. And if you’re not getting satisfactory answers it might be time to move on. Seriously.

How you spend time is your responsibility – not his

Men will not make commitments that aren’t required of them. If he refuses to pop the question and that’s what you desire, break up with him.

Easier said than done? Yes. But it is a wise move nonetheless. If he is serious, he will try to get you back; but if he doesn’t you are better off being available (like that house up there) than tied up in a rental contract during your prime years.


Men don’t fall in love gradually

They don’t find themselves falling for women in whom they weren’t initially interested. Male romantic love is something that either starts early and continues, or doesn’t start at all because:

  1. His attraction to you is physical and your physical beauty can be demonstrated by seeing you in a handful of outfits or to some degree through photos on social media.
  2. His attraction to you is rooted in your personality and energy which can be demonstrated by experiencing you in a handful of moods. This takes longer than the physical attraction but is still possible within a fairly limited number of encounters.

From a Biblical standpoint

This makes sense, as Adam knew Eve upon first sight. The implications of this are huge as it underlines that

If a man isn’t falling for you from an early stage – say the first month – it is unlikely to happen

Don’t wait around for his feelings to “grow” the way yours sometimes do. They won’t.

While this doesn’t necessarily mean that he should be ruled out as a potential boyfriend, it does mean that you may never experience being cherished and loved by him.

And if this is something you can’t live without, you would be better off breaking up with him now, than to become more emotionally or sexually invested down the line.

Do y’all agree? Feel free to comment below.

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  1. Amen! Watch the movie – he’s just not that into you. Women – do you think it takes a guy 2 yrs to figure out if he’d marry his celebrity crush? Nope. If he likes you – he knows early on.

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