I’m invisible to the modern Black man because
- My features aren’t exotic
- My complexion isn’t honey toned or white
- I don’t have long flowing hair
- I don’t have a bubble butt, wide hips or blow up breasts
- And apparently I have a stanking attitude
- I have no manners, no class, and I’m desperate
Are you seeing a pattern here?
A large percentage of Black men in our generation aren’t looking for values, morals or a good mother to their children – somewhere along the line, their priorities became skewed – as they now want a sexy play thing or a woman who has the right complexion, body parts and someone who will bring them the quickest approval from society, and a sense of esteem. And we wonder why so many relationships are dysfunctional.
For years, Black men have wanted to prove they are winning by dating and marrying outside of our race in droves, sometimes as a genuine preference, but in most cases, to move up the social stratus, a trend we are going to address today, even though every other minority race still chooses their own en masse. In basic terms their goal is being able to say:
Look I’ve made it. I’m somebody. I can get a woman outside of my race.
Wearing: Marc by Marc floral dress and Marc Jacobs braided gold heels
I didn’t give up on Black men Black men gave up on me
The first problem when they look at me, is I’m indigenously Black, and not only that, I look Black. I have Black features and I’m dark skinned. That’s right I look like them. Therefore I don’t warrant their approval.
Are you frustrated and struggling to find Black love? Well you’ve come to the right place.
Stop blaming yourself girl! It’s not entirely your fault; we are in a deep relationship crisis in the Black community ~ or to put it bluntly some Black men have lost their mind! If these preferences are the new standard by which to date a Black man then you can count me OUT.
Just imagine the majority of Chinese men rushing to date celebrate and marry Black women
Especially if they implied their own women were lacking. It would cause you to question their motive, and disrespect them when you realized:
‘If you don’t love your own, then you cannot love yourself.’
Which is precisely how some Black men are behaving with glee. Well let them bask in other people’s admiration, because eventually they will have no option but to conclude, that you cannot change who you are, nor how the world perceives you.
Do you think Chinese women would wallow? Of course they wouldn’t neither should we
So where does this leave Black women?
Desolate, out of place, unprotected and searching for our missing piece. I mean, for years, we have carried the weight; prison sentences, infidelity, verbal and physical abuse, thinking one day he will see that we have sacrificed, see that we understand, and have held the torch without fail. But no. What a slap in the face.
We can argue over the obstacles hindering Black men from being completely focused and successful husbands, fathers and sons, but what are they doing about it? Are we as Black women supposed to stick around and wait until these men turn 70, to figure out they should have treated us better? Or should we begin to think about catching up with the rest of society, and demand sustainable relationships and marriages from any race?
The main problem as I see it is a lack of self esteem
Who said dating and marrying Black women was a lesser choice anyway?
I will always treat Black men with respect. That is how I was raised. I have a Dad I adore and an incredible brother. Not forgetting the men who have supported BCG and those who have extended their kindness.
I’m speaking out against the increasing level of arrogance and Black woman bashing – unfortunately there isn’t enough room or time to detail it in one post – because the discrimination has become intolerable to the point that:
I have no idea what race I will marry and neither do my girlfriends
We are all fed up
That’s the main reason why Get a Great Guy in Under 30 Days! was created for you. It is written with the intention of helping you secure your very best match from any race. Or in other words every living man with a pulse.
You’ll no longer look back in anger and regret, nope this info, will encourage you to look ahead with hope and confidence, knowing that you are fully equipped to attract a partner you desire, who loves you, and only you.
Because one man’s trash is another man’s treasure.
5 quick tips to overcome the Black man shortage
- There are plenty of cute couples on social media who are more than happy to share their story! Follow them.
- Work out and exercise I’m serious ladies: Make no mistake men are visual and you don’t want to risk being left on the shelf.
- Build your life: Pursue your passions, everybody looks good nowadays – especially with filters. Give yourself a cutting edge by developing your own personality to boost your marketability to every race.
- Get yourself financially secure
- Learn to make a few recipes really well
Would you date outside your race?
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