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Men are hypocritical. They prefer women to have few sexual partners, while they continue sleeping around themselves. Typical. This isn’t fair but life isn’t fair. The reality is women will always be judged more harshly in comparison to men after casual sex – even when it’s the best casual sex he’s ever had.
No man will reveal this, but the way in which you behave in the dating phase is extremely important to him. It really doesn’t matter what you say, his judgment of you boils down to what you do. So if you don’t respect yourself, who will?
Plenty of women are sexually liberated these days, indeed they are entitled to indulge in as much sex as they want. But what happens when you meet a good man (I’m talking one who ticks ALL of your boxes) and you want him to treat you differently from his past sexual conquests?
One way to stop him in his tracks, is to challenge him to get to know you properly by making him wait for sex. Just try it: make him wait for sex. The downside is, you’ll be devoid of sexual pleasure, the upside is, you will never have to deal with losers again.
Have you seen what guys will do for sex?
Wow. Even the most upstanding man will turn into a horny sex pest and resort to the filthiest behavior at the promise of getting inside you.
According to my male pals, there’s nothing more exciting, than mentally going through the motions with a girl he’s never experienced. To him, new pu**y feels awesome. Not good – awesome!
Seeing the pressure men apply, confirms our vaginas have HUGE bargaining power. Therefore surrendering and giving yourself on a plate at the first sign of a compliment, grants him the power to dismiss you as quickly as he pursued you.
Of course he’ll be weary of combining his future with yours, when he’s secured sex without a hint of effort. To my mind, dating is a transaction and we can easily use this window of opportunity to negotiate the terms of the relationship before sex complicates matters, by disclosing our desires upfront to prevent confusion, failed expectations and heartbreak down the line. In this way, if HE can’t meet YOUR needs you can dismiss him.
We are constantly bombarded with messages on how to be “sexier”, “dirtier”, “raunchier”, but it’s high time we placed our emotional requirements first. Celibacy may not appeal to you, but hearing an alternative will at least allow you to make a more balanced decision next time you’re caught up in a steamy
Hey, no one said waiting for sex is easy, but when looking at the broad spectrum of life, nothing worthwhile ever is.
Here are 5 points to help you wrap your head around this
1. Get to know a man’s intentions thoroughly before having sex!
To men intimacy means one thing, to women intimacy means everything. When a woman invests her time in a man (on some level) she will become emotionally attached. A man in the same scenario can still have sex and move on whereas the woman will be devastated. It may seem difficult to wait but there is no sex worth your emotional sanity.
2. When a man likes you ENOUGH he will wait for sex!
The biggest misconception is that a man will only stick around if you open your legs. This is simply not true. He just has to be 100% certain that you are, the real deal and then he will definitely wait for as long as you ask him to.
BEWARE: If he claims he is waiting, yet sleeps around, he is not worth it. If he claims he is waiting, yet disappears and reappears (like David Blaine) he is not worth it either.
Who would YOU respect?
3. The way you carry yourself is crucial!
Your body language is a statement to him:
- Our body language accounts for 55% of what we communicate
- Our tone of voice accounts for 38%
- Our words account for ONLY 7%.
This substantiates that what we do is far more important than what we say. So, as much as it’s great to flirt, it is counterproductive to be overly suggestive as he will automatically get the wrong idea.
4. Dress properly and he will treat you like a lady!
There is nothing wrong with being sexy but when it comes to taking you seriously, a man likes mystery. If your ass and breasts are hanging out he’ll only be thinking of 1 thing. He’s dating you because he thinks you’re damn fine; so can you blame him?
5. Your behavior tells him how much you respect yourself!
Just like a child, a man will always try to push the boundaries to see how far he can go. The way you act tells him how highly you value yourself and your body. If you let your standards slip and get intimate quickly, in most cases, it will inadvertently cause him to show you less respect, this is because in his eyes you have already lost respect for yourself.
Does waiting for sex matter to you?
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