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He was different
You had spent the entire evening getting to know him yesterday (or so you thought). Your feelings emerged after meeting him last weekend in a bar; he had smiled at you and bought you a drink. One drink led to another and before long, he was escorting you back to yours. After coming to your senses, you issued a polite excuse to stop him from following you upstairs. Although he looked slightly dejected, he did ask for your number, and as he was so
sexy charming, you didn’t hesitate to comply.
He sent you a cheeky text the next day and you replied straight away, but then he took a couple of days to respond. This delay unexpectedly got under your skin, but as the romance was still developing, you let it go. Fast forward 3 days and another text arrived on Friday. Your heart fluttered as you read his invitation to a friend’s birthday drinks. Wow! He had thought of you, since the bash was located near to your workplace. You didn’t have anything crucial planned that night plus meeting him gave you an excuse to wear those killer heels you had ordered online.
6 o’clock rolled around and you found yourself in the bar…and there he was! He bounded over and kissed you dangerously close to your freshly glossed lips. The rest of the night was devoted to gazing into each other’s eyes and laughing, he took you home, again. Only this time, it felt right to accept him upstairs. It didn’t take long to discover that he was much bigger than you’d anticipated – needless to say you had a great time in his company.
But 48 hours passed and you received no phone call – not even a text! But he said he’d call?
If only men were more reliable!
This is a typical story in a City Girl’s life. No matter how much we swear off quick flings, there is always one guy that slips through the net. Without fail, he ends up disappointing us. Our rationale warns us not to have high expectations, yet a little voice in the back of our heads still hopes for the best. If you’re fed up with guys not taking you seriously:
Here are 4 quick methods to weed out men who just want you for sex
1. Never accept a date via text
When a man is a serial texter and fails to call before your first date then he does not take you seriously. Of course there are exceptions to every rule but in most cases his behavior expresses his desire to have sex with you and his indifference for anything more. A text is the minimum effort required to see you and he won’t have to face the awkwardness of conducting a conversation when he isn’t interested in your personality.
2. Never accept a date on the same day he asks
A man is entitled to become arrogant when he sees that you are prepared to drop everything to see him at the last minute. No matter how enticing his invitation is, when you accept on the same day, it sends out the wrong message. 9 times out of 10 you already have plans, even if they entail going home to wash your hair. At the beginning of the romance, your priority should be you, as the man has done nothing to deserve you prioritizing his needs above your own.
3. Pace yourself
By taking your time to respond to texts, emails and calls, the relationship will move at a speed that makes you feel comfortable and will give you time to think of an appropriate response. Even if a man thinks you are playing games, your actions will still convey a high level of self respect, showing him that he is not the most important person in your life. Until a man proves worthy of your immediate attention he should earn that luxury.
4. Keep the goodies in the cookie jar
Nowadays some men feel entitled to your body after splashing out on 1 date! Unless you have signed a contract which outlines that he will receive sex after spending money on you, then you are well within your rights to keep your legs closed! The longer you avoid sex the more effort he has to make to get to know you as a person. A man with casual intentions will find the wait extremely tiring. And sooner or later he’ll begin pursuing a woman that will satisfy his basic needs.
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